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March 21, 2013

Male Startup Entrepreneurs shouldn’t marry an Indian girl unless…

Disclaimer: This doesn’t hold for ‘entire’ women of India.
There are awesome women in India.. be it urban or rural areas… I’ve met some and I consider myself lucky to have seen how valuable they are to their husbands, to the society and as a woman.

If you feel offended or want to do some ‘Indian version of feminist’ bashing about this post / you’re a new blood boiling so-called feminist due to recent media highlight on rapes in India, then you’re either immature/haven’t seen much life/can’t accept the truth.
Feel free to bash if you itch to, but I have a decade long of scars/experience on my heart and tons of cases observed… so I know what the fuck I am talking about.

Well, back to the topic,

Friend IDG shared this – http://qz.com/65085/india-male-start-up-entrepreneurs-have-trouble-finding-wives-and-the-government-isnt-helping-things/ on Facebook, and I couldn’t agree more 🙂

I’d also say ‘Male Startup Entrepreneurs shouldn’t marry an Indian girl unless She

0. Understands that passion

1. Can maintain ‘mental peace’ at home

2. Has an independent mind not driven/manipulated by her relatives.
(Some people never realize this throughout their lives.)

3. Doesn’t not consider you as an investment/free ATM machine.

4. Is willing to ‘at least morally’ support you at downtimes.
(As per gender equality, she should be able to step up and support financially too at dry times… but personally I’ve always believed its better NOT to touch an Indian girl’s money.. like NEVER. For “MOST” of them the sense of gender equality is about what they can get from someone.. and not about what they can do for someone.)

5. Knows when its the right time for babies.. and not mentally force you to spawn some for the heck of it.. or just because her relatives want to play with babies now.
Think, Can you afford best education and health for your kid yet?

6. And there are another TON of points which I don’t want to waste my time writing up. 🙂

If you do find an Indian girl who is up for some “realistic” gender equality and actually is a +ve to hang around with during your startup stage.. then pat yourself on the back gentleman… you’ve found a rare gem.
Treasure her, Value her and take good care of her. That’s a person worth taking a bullet for.

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14 Comments »

  1. Is it true? That’s all what I thought after reading your post.

    Any girl that has self-esteem knows that she should stay on her own foot, and spend her own money. And I wonder if Indian women have less dignity than others?

    Regarding the chidren, come on, man just lost some sperm for the baby but it costs the woman health, beauty, and most of her time when a new child born. What the heck does a woman want a child for if not to nurture the relationship, bring it to the new stage and build the nest with her man’s support. Children should be the result of a blossomed love, not the result of it.

    So is what you wite correct about (most of) Indian women? Or just a minority of girls that you encountered during your bad luck time of love.

    Comment by Rosie — March 21, 2013 @ 8:42 am

  2. > And I wonder if Indian women have less dignity than others?

    As I mention, “most” of them are confused between “dignity/self-respect” and “ego”.
    I’d like to add, that there are even men who (especially in arranged marriages) ask the lady to get money from her parents (dowry) which he lives on and brags about it… which I find disgusting. Although, these cases are bit going down now.

    > man just lost some sperm for the baby but it costs the woman health, beauty, and most of her time when a new child born.

    Really? 🙂
    Man may have lost few sperm.. but a “responsible” man (especially single earning men) takes on a huge amount of sudden tension/burden of worrying about
    – healthcare,
    – about safety,
    – about future,
    – about whether they need to now change where they live,
    – about accommodating all the “sudden/new” relatives that will come by to checkout the baby bump,
    – about travel plans of wife who will now want to go around temples to verbally sign a deal with God for comparatively fairchild/intelligent child than her cousin or sisters children, (oh yeah now its a fucking race of show off)
    – worry about her safety during travel
    – you probably have to tag along with her on her trips (in middle of your startup!) .. else you’ll be labelled as husband that doesnt care.
    – worry about her manipulative mother whom she will demand you to put up with now that she is pregnant
    – worry about affording all the gold rings that GodMen will advise your wife to wear for blessings.. not to forget the big poojas to be done.
    – worry about making money faster to afford better life for new born, better education, extra healthcare

    All of the above needs good amount of time and money; can’t really rush these in between starting up your own company.
    No wonder why most Indian women prefer guys born with silver spoon in mouth.

    A probable solution is to quit your startup.. throw away your dreams and go join a job that can every month surely afford stuff.
    But with a woman like that, she can find more ways to make your life miserable.

    So please dont belittle it off as man just lost few sperms… just because we dont raise a hue and cry about our feelings/pressure.. it doesnt mean we dont experience them.

    > What the heck does a woman want a child for if not to nurture the relationship, bring it to the new stage and build the nest with her man’s support.

    Above points cover a ton of it … a woman needs to nurture a child, but if that woman is immature, then the man needs to nurture 2 children.
    One grown immature one with no logical reasoning… and another poor baby who will probably grow up to be like his/her mother (since you’re away slaving off at work and the immature woman is now tuning the child’s behavior singlehandedly… child learning to be as immature if not greater than his/her mother)
    So 20 yrs down the line, you have now created another problem for the world who will screw some guy/girl’s life (depending on his/her orientation)
    Is this what we give back to the world?

    > So is what you wite correct about (most of) Indian women?

    Pick up any random (but sensible/responsible) married man from India and ask him. Don’t ask the new love birds.. poor guy will be blind for sometime.
    I can bet that 8-9/10 will tell you something similar (unless his man-ego is holding him from being open about it)

    > Or just a minority of girls that you encountered during your bad luck time of love.

    1 girl. A decade+. My life still feels like a train wreck.

    And I am not angry on her (A part of me still loves her, but I am going to kill that part). I feel she is herself a victim.. a victim of mind manipulation by a single parent (especially when it happens during growth years 9+ to teenage) … and you know how it is with manipulation .. the victim never realizes the manipulation and the manipulator is almost equal to God for them.

    All these years I thought I could give her some logic, some understanding and may be able to let her mind get some “freewill”.. but I have now accepted the fact that the personality that gets built during growth years … stays for very very long. It can be suppressed a bit, but thats just a put-up behavior.. internally the person doesnt change (unless life hits them crazy fucking hard)

    For her, I wish she can find that “eligible husband” that she has been looking for. Criteria silver spoon, please her mother and her family, support irrational decisions, put up with manipulation, lies and backstabbing.
    I am not good enough for her because I cannot withstand those stuff.
    And that also makes me ‘ineligible’ for most Indian women. (like I fucking care about being eligible)
    Btw, I think maybe I am supposed to stay single and do something awesome in other aspects of life.
    Journey is ON already.

    Also, I wouldn’t say it was ‘bad luck time’.. I would rather say it was a good learning about life.
    I learned to identify and appreciate good people (made friends with a handful rare ones), I learned to see the beauty of life being a mystery and how it unfolds, I learned to find joy in ‘simplest yet unappreciated by most’ things of life.

    Comment by krish — March 21, 2013 @ 2:00 pm

  3. 1 girl and decade+….you are tough dude. I am in a similar but a smaller boat. Yes it is hard to find compatible girls especially for a unattractive and struggling entrepreneur like me. All the best for your future.

    Comment by Prashanth B — March 29, 2013 @ 7:41 pm

  4. > I am in a similar but a smaller boat.

    Hang in tight soldier. I am sure you will be able to cross this. Sometimes, life is a war.. and war needs leaving some parts of your life behind to win it or get out alive.

    > especially for a unattractive and struggling entrepreneur like me.

    No one is unattractive mate. Everyone is beautiful in a unique way. Except the evil wicked ones 🙂
    And value your own struggles… the taste of food and stuff from self hard earned money cannot be beaten by silver-spoon money.

    For an entrepreneur with 2 loves (one lady and one his business), if one of them is troublesome, it can be fixed. But if the other which we tend to treat as “significant” other is troublesome then you might end up sinking both boats.
    Might want to analyse if dropping one is better for future. Then again, never turn back once you drop — thats not called dropping 🙂

    > All the best for your future.

    Thank you 🙂 Much needed and I wish you the same and more.
    Work Hard and achieve your goals because Nothing can substitute for Hard work 😉

    Comment by krish — March 29, 2013 @ 8:57 pm

  5. Wow… I guess i have to agree with you on this one… I m a feminist… N true feminst r the one hu asks equality nt to eat up a man… I hv seen my own cousinz who jump for boys to boys luking for the perfect one… U know the one with money… Big job.. Rich family.. Huge cars… Property… The list goes on n on… N dey wont do a thing… Just think of gettng a simple job for time pass and jus waste the guy money.. They are a disgrace to womenhood n also n insult to the cause of feminism… But u see girls like you listed still exist… Nt very rare… But the ones hu use their brains… N yea evn i believe that babies are not toys a huge responsibilty…

    Comment by B — April 10, 2013 @ 1:28 pm

  6. What can I say.. The world is going to illogical people.
    Good to know that you are one of logical ones. Hugs. 🙂

    Comment by krish — April 10, 2013 @ 3:42 pm

  7. My indian ex-husband, a Gujarati Jain, in the name of starting his own business took all my money from our joint account (my hard-earned salary of more than 7 years), dated other women in the name of meetings and eventually after 17 years of being together when I could not take it anymore n started lashing out, he left me with my 10-year-old son. He is the most selfish n cruel person I’ve had the misfortune to come across. In fact, he isn’t a man. Most ‘Indian men’ aren’t real men. Thinking that u are an entrepreneur doesn’t make u one. May be, u just don’t want to do any real work n want to live off your wife’s money.

    Comment by Kalpana — December 22, 2013 @ 9:00 am

  8. @Kalpana … That’s very sad. Did you not file a case?
    I wish for some smooth life now that he is away… hoping you get back on your feet financially strong.

    > Thinking that u are an entrepreneur doesn’t make u one

    True that many people like to call themselves “entrepreneurs” or say “I run a company” without actually doing any proper work.
    Like those ton of them running facebook pages and write up their qualification as “CEO of so and so”

    > May be, u just don’t want to do any real work n want to live off your wife’s money.

    I know quite some entrepreneurs who will never touch their wife’s money (that includes me)… half probably because of man-ego.. half because they know that in mentality of a ton of women (specially Indian women), it is okay to live off husband’s money but it’s not okay to spend money?
    Like the women who cry of gender equality but will never pick up a cheque at a diner.

    I would like to hear your views on ‘woman spending a money in a relationship; or is it only man’s duty?’

    Also, do you know how many women have fled with join account money of their husband’s and then on asking filed a false 498A case?
    Very recently my mom was telling me of a family that lived as tenants at her place.

    Comment by krish — January 7, 2014 @ 4:59 pm

  9. I’m an American woman, and just can’t wrap my head around that kind of behavior. Our cultures are just too far apart, I guess (not that MY culture is so great, of course).

    Comment by doit4tehlulz — February 24, 2014 @ 7:47 am

  10. Fuck you.

    -a newly built Indian feminist.

    Comment by feminist — February 8, 2015 @ 11:45 pm

  11. Dear @newly built Indian feminist from Hyderabad,
    I’m sorry mate. I’ll have to gracefully decline that offer – No, Thank you!
    Thanks for stopping by on my blog.

    Comment by krish — February 9, 2015 @ 12:34 am

  12. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
    1. Can maintain ‘mental peace’ at home
    2. Has an independent mind not driven/manipulated by her relatives. (Some people never realize this throughout their lives.)
    3. Doesn’t not consider you as an investment/free ATM machine.
    4. Is willing to ‘at least morally’ support you at downtimes.
    5. Knows when its the right time for babies.. and not mentally force you to spawn some for the heck of it…..
    6. And there are another TON of points which I don’t want to waste my time writing up. 🙂
    If you do find an Indian girl who is up for some “realistic” gender equality and actually is a +ve to hang around with during your startup stage.. <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<

    Now … wake up … enough dreamin…..

    Comment by vinayak — February 9, 2015 @ 5:01 pm

  13. @Krish …

    Only one thing to say … A woman is a woman is a woman !!! Indian or otherwise.

    You are very wise and hence …

    You are better off … Way better off

    Stay put with your entreprenuerial goals

    Comment by Venu — February 9, 2015 @ 11:21 pm

  14. Another advice, nay, recommendation …

    Never ever employ an Indian woman in India .. Indian origin woman outside India

    Comment by Venu — February 9, 2015 @ 11:23 pm


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